The New American Dream for v3 Men

It recently dawned upon me during an extended sauna session that most of the goals that the large majority of people in the US seek to attain are pre-programmed into us from a young age.

The typical American Dream, or “American Social Contract Expectations” for most of us up until the last generation would have been:

• High school + college education
• Start career path using said education
• Dating/living together with girlfriend we meet during college education
• Purchasing a property with that person
• Getting married with a fun wedding
• Having children (can’t just have one!)
• Working 18 years to support those kids until its time for them to start this list for themselves
• Retire at 65 to enjoy 20 years of day drinking and vacationing until either you or your spouse dies

However, did any of these goals come from myself? From any of us?

Lets go down the list.

High school and most of college was an extraordinary waste of our time. If you ever have the unfortunate experience of spending time in jail, you’ll seen the many similarities between school and incarceration.

Compound that with the undeniable fact that we don’t graduate high school (and most college graduates can say the same) with any skills that allow us to go out and earn a income above a minimum wage or start a business that would employ others and benefit our communities.

The typical reaction to starting a 9-5 is, “am I supposed to do this every week for the rest of my life?!” Perhaps its just me, but should we sincerely dread starting to work and earning a income independently of our parents?

Living with a girl will be one of the most aggravating experiences of your life simply because of the way women are, their hormonal cycles, and their internal expectations. No matter how sweet they can be for 2 weeks they will turn into monsters the other 2 weeks of each month and its not something they can control (hormonal birth control can dampen these feelings almost to 0 however is absolutely not healthy in the long term).

Not a single married man has recommended I get married myself. You can tell me if this is the same for you as well.

Wedding costs are insane, even if the bride’s family has a bit of money they likely aren’t shelling out $100k for a party. At least not the families of the women we will get along with. Maybe you were born into the top 1% of income earning households, but in that case most of this list will not apply to you anyway.

Lets say you purchase a home, like I did in 2023. The amount of money paid in interest, upkeep/maintenance, insurance, utilities, and TAXES are much larger than most of us expect when making the purchase. The taxes especially as that would be a line item every year, no matter what, that only increases to your list of “bare minimum living expenses”. All to pay to give other people’s kids the same indoctrination we received.

I won’t speak to having kids or retiring just yet.

So if none of these things are favorable for us to do today, why is this considered the American Dream? Who designed it this way? Do any of us actually want this?

For a while, mainly for v1 and v2 men, this was a sweet deal. Our v1 grandfathers could elect to drop out of high school, start earning an income immediately in the trades, and support a family of 5 all by themselves. They got to have a local church wedding and marry a close-to-virgin woman who most likely stayed by his side and gave him multiple children over the entirety of their marriage. No need for excessive debt to own a home, no need for college loans to fund a career, and an overall great ROI for going to work each day and toughing it out.

V2 men saw a shift towards some of these pursuits becoming less favorable, but the data shows that at the time, the ROI of pursuing the American Dream was still pretty favorable. Specifically homeownership which allowed for many men to build equity that made them millionaires. Only later in life would the financial/emotional costs of divorce, the shifting of power from labor to capital, and rampant agism in the workplace effect this version of men, but by then they were firmly down a path they simply didn’t have the time to reverse.

Today, v3 men are starting their journeys (technically many of us are still under 18) with a complete understanding that the original print of the American Social Contract is faded and, in many areas, completely blank.

• School does not equal future income (white or blue collar)
• Career does not equal ability to provide for a family or purchase property in the US
• Marriage does not equal lifelong support and/or peace

So, to the surprise of no one that has actually looked into this, rates of male participation in school, the workforce, and marriage is sinking to all time lows and looks to continue in that direction.

Not to mention that all of these “dreams” seem to involve us going into debt to the large financial institutions that run this country.

AND THAT’S A GOOD THING

The spiritually weak v1 men decided to sell us out to fund luxurious retirement packages. Do not fight back. Let them enjoy the fruits of their labor. Unless you’re Native American or Mexicano, America was never our home to begin with.

Trying to fix problems started by the richest, most powerful, and already-retired generation of people is akin to fighting a war we did not start, risking our lives for the gain of others.

The hallmark of a true v3 man is rigorously applied stoicism, and the main stoic principle boils down to “control what you can, and don’t worry about the rest.”

So what is the solution? What is the new American Dream for v3 men that we have completely in our control?

Simple really, it involves these key aspects:

• Staying debt free, specifically student loan debt
• Staying healthy (10-15% BF, limited alcohol consumption, awareness of food quality and ingredients)
• Useful and monetizable skillset for the future that allows for basic needs + global investment opportunities
• Local/Global network of other v3 men
• Access to women we find attractive
• Ability to financially support children with those women if we so please

I will go into more depth on each of these topics as this blog grows, but thankfully there is a clear path forward for all of these objectives to be achieved.

V3 men do not give up, we do not complain, we take in data and make decisions based on insights and adapt based on results.

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